Feb 092014

Frances ReedSince rule-making can act as a distraction from honest conversation, an over-reliance on it can do a huge disservice to poly* relationships when mistakes are made and emotions are high. In addition to analyzing common rules, we will cover hierarchical/non-hierarchical poly, veto power, and safer-sex agreements. This workshop is open to all but caters best to poly* people who are interested in or curious about ways to structure poly. This workshop explores ways in which poly* relationships can be ill-served by rule making but does not assert that rules are always bad or wrong and celebrates the ways in which rules work for many couples.

Where: LGBT Center, 208 West 13th St. (7th/8th Ave)
When: Friday, February 21, 2014; 8:00-10:00PM
Cost: $5/LSM members, $10/Non members

Frances Reed is what do you get when you cross workshop facilitator with massage therapist, communication-fetishist, and kinky queer. Frances teaches people every day how to tune into their bodies for improved quality of life. Frances asserts that the body has so much to teach us about how to know ourselves better, have better sex, carry out safer play, experience more ecstatic orgasms, have smoother relationship communication, and much more! Frances is a lively, engaging presenter with a style guaranteed to get people talking. Frances is also a kinky-as-fuck, high-sex-drive baring, wildly polyamorous, genderfluid queer. Frances owns Freed Bodyworks, a holistic practice catering specifically to non-conforming bodies in Washington, DC.


Jessica VonDyke is a pervy, poly, queer femme who’s mission in life is to help folks have better sex. She is the owner of The Garden DC: sex-positive education and events, in JessicaVonDykeWashington DC and is an advocate for gender inclusiveness, sexy safer sex and queer positive space in everything that she does.

Jan 142014

Tina HornDirty talk and sexual communication is challenging for all people, but queers in particular have an imperative to work on these skills. Language in relation to gender, bodies, sex acts, and identity has the potential to be triggering, empowering or re-claiming for queers and those who love them. The more we know how to communicate desires and boundaries, and know what to consider, the more fun we can have with our mouths opened AND closed! Join professional smack talker Tina Horn as we share basic tools for great dirty talk and discuss the importance of desire and boundary communication for kinky play. You will gain something from this class whether you identify as queer or not.

Where: LGBT Center, 208 West 13th St. (7th/8th Ave)
When: Friday, January 24, 2014; 8:00-10:00PM
Cost: $5/LSM members, $10/Non members

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Tina Horn is a writer, educator, interdisciplinary media-maker, queer punk, and true karaoke believer. She produces and hosts “Why Are People Into That?!”, a new podcast that demystifies desire. In 2010, she co-created, produced, and directed a project called QueerPorn.Tv, which won two Feminist Porn Awards and a Cinekink Award, in addition to being nominated for an AVN. Tina holds an MFA in Creative Nonfiction Writing from Sarah Lawrence College.

Her writing has appeared in several Cleis Press anthologies, including Best Bondage Erotica 2010; she has also blogged for Helix Queer Performance Network, Fleshbot and Gaga Stigmata, and published articles in The Believer, AORTA, and Whore! magazines. Over the past five years, Tina’s workshops on dirty talk, sex worker self care, and spanking have been featured at a variety of international venues, including Good Vibrations, Perverts Put Out, UC Berkeley, Lesbian Sex Mafia, Dark Odyssey, and the Feminist Porn Conference at University of Toronto. Born in Northern California, she now lives in Manhattan with a very sweet bear.

Nov 202013

Mollena by DonSir Self-identification is difficult for anyone in the alternative lifestyle. It can be even more challenging for people who see themselves as strong in their lives but desirous of submission. There is a great deal of pressure in the BDSM community to “seem submissive,” so what do you do when you see yourself as strong and fierce and yet crave mastery and domination?

Believe me, you are not alone. There are many submissives and bottoms and slaves who are strong and independent and finding their way through the maze of the Kink Community! This class is an intense discussion of self-assessment personal identification, passion and power. From those who struggle with their desire to submit, to those who strive for greater strength of purpose, this class will be a wonderful opportunity to bond with the like-minded and suss out your strength in an open setting. And for tops dominants and masters, this is an excellent opportunity to get into the mind of those who are strong and embrace the dichotomy of strength in submission and freedom in slavery!

Where: LGBT Center, 208 West 13th St. (7th/8th Ave)
When: Friday, December  20, 2013; 8:00-10:00PM
Cost: $5/LSM members, $10/Non members


This “Delicate, Trembling Flower of Submission” © is a NYC born and raised writer, actress, BDSM Educator, Storyteller and an Award-Winning Executive Pervert. She is extremely proud to have served as International Ms Leather 2010. She is also thrilled to have been named Ms. San Francisco Leather 2009. Her opinion and viewpoints on issues of kink, Leather and BDSM are frequently sought after by news and information sources such as The New York Times, The Huffington Post, Newsweek, Essence,and Ebonyamong other publications.

Exploring kink since 1993, active in BDSM and the Leather Community since 1996, and presenting classes since 1998, she speaks at Leather, BDSM and Kink events across the US, Europe and Canada on many Leather and BDSM focused topics. She also brings the knowledge on Kink, BDSM and Leather to such august institutions of higher learning as SF State and Cal State, Harvard, Princeton,Yale, Stamford, University of  Chicago, and Brown for IvyQ 2012. She has been invited to present this fall MIT, was a featured presenter at  Yale for IvyQ 2013, and has recently been a guest speaker for at Smith College and Sarah Lawrence College, and returned to Brown in the spring of 2013. In addition to speaking at many kink and Leather events, she presented a groundbreaking plenary session for the American Association of Sexuality Educators Counselors & Therapists (AASECT) in June 2013. A calendar of her upcoming events is here at Mo’s Travel Plans!

She is the author of the “Toybag Guide: Taboo Play.” Mollena co-authored with Lee Harrington,  “Playing Well With Others: Your Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities” which is fast becoming the “go-to guide” for those curious about Alternative Lifestyles. Their book won the National Leather Association’s 2013 Geoff Mains Non-Fiction Book Award.  Three of her essays were finalists for the NLA’s 2013 Cynthia Slater Non-Fiction Article award: “Stop, Drop and Role! Erotic Role Playing” and ”Digging in the Dirt – The Lure of Taboo Role Play” appeared in “The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role-Play & The Erotic Edge edited by Tristan Taormino. Her essay ”On Collars And Closure and Owning Myself” is the 2012 winner, and it originally appeared on her blog, The Perverted Negress. This makes her the winner of that award for two years in a row, as her essay “Tables Briefly Turned” won the NLA-I’s 2011 Cynthia Slater Award. Visit her on the web at The Perverted Negress.